Tossing the bouquet is a tradition that stems from England. Women used to rip pieces of the bride’s dress and flowers in order to obtain some of her good luck. This must have been the early days of the ‘trash the dress’ movement! To escape from the crowd the bride would toss her bouquet and run away. When Queen Victoria married Prince Albert, the herbs and spices had been replaced by fresh flowers, although edible flowers were still included in the bouquet. The bride would carry her arrangement as she walked down the aisle. The dill from the bride’s bouquet (also known as the herb of lust), was consumed by the bride, the groom, and their wedding guests during the reception, as the herb was meant to increase sexual desire. What a reception! I’ve recently read the book, The Language of Flowers by Vanessa Diffenbaugh, a very good read! This book certainly caught my interest on the language of flowers and their true meanings. What a lost art, I can’t wait to learn more!
I want to talk about the bride’s bouquet. If you’re petite, your bouquet should be petite. If you’re of a medium build, your bouquet should be medium. If you’re a larger bride, your bouquet should be larger. It’s all about proportion. I’ve arrived at weddings and couldn’t see the bride because her bouquet was so LARGE. Your focus has now shifted to this huge bouquet instead of the bride. If you’re a larger bride, you do not want to be carrying a single rose. Brides usually haven’t ordered or carried a bouquet before so they truly aren’t sure what to expect with the it. Sometimes the part of the bouquet you hold onto is so LARGE you can barely wrap your hand around it (seriously), and when it’s that big it is also heavy. Recently at a wedding the bride turned to me and said, “You know, this bouquet is really heavy! I didn’t realize how heavy it was going to be until it was made and in my hands.” Yes, heavy. I know you won’t be carrying it long, but it gets heavier by the second. Then I’ll have a bride with tiny hands trying to wrap them around a 6 inch bouquet base. Look at your hand right now and form your hand as if you are holding a bouquet. See what I mean?
Don’t be afraid to personalize your bouquet. I’ve had one bride put a pendant holding a picture of her father on her bouquet. Her father had passed away and she wanted him holding her hand down the aisle. Another bride had a small portion of her grandmothers veil put onto a hair comb to be placed in her hair. At the last minute she opted for a tiara instead but still wanted her ‘something old and something borrowed’ with her. I said, “Put it in your bouquet.” It fit perfectly and looked like it was meant to be there. Such sentiment makes the wedding. Free advice… don’t buy more than what you need or what will look less than classic and all will be perfect.